Anonymous Share #1

Something I want to share and I know many of us "Men" has been in situations like this and chose to do what is right and nice and just at the time and moment it requires regardless of how it makes us, affects us or how torn we will feel after.

Long story short, my girlfriend of 13 years suddenly felt she needs time for herself and preferred for us to be separated. During her time of adjustment, she too was confused, devastated, hurt but at the same time she really felt she need to go through life by herself, her experiences — which is all cool.

Occasionally, we will meet for dinner just to hang out and talk, share what and how she was going through. One day she asked me, "What about me? How was I doing?" She said we didn't need to talk only about her and how she was. What about you?

Straight off I said this: "Don't worry about me, I'm fine. The objective at the moment is that you are at a slump, you feel confused, you seek self clarity and self purpose, so let's focus on that, let's share what is it you feel, what is it you need and want and I will un-biasely give you my suggestion and advise if you want."

Instinctively that is what I said. I put myself, my ego, my feelings, my hurt all aside and made her feel comfortable to share what she is going through.

Once the time is done and I am back at home……. I let myself feel… fuck!!!!

I shed a ton of tears and then back to OK, time to sleep coz tomorrow is another day — another one which needs my full capacity so that I can be okay. So shower, meditate and sleep. Tomorrow is another day and all great things happen to me……..but before the shower….. fuckkkkkkkkk!!!!!! hahahahaha

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